Ways To Promote A Trusting Relationship

| Friday, February 11, 2011
By Jean B. Moore


Everyone needs to learn the art of communication. This involves meeting new people, conversing with them, and eventually gaining their trust. All these are needed in all aspects of our lives - from our careers to our love lives - relationships are essential to living within a community. Here are five ways to help you gain someone's trust:

Always assume that on the onset, you will be regarded with suspicion. Trust is never given freely, it is earned. Therefore, take it easy when meeting new people, it is only natural that people don't open up the first time you meet them just like you would do to anyone new.

Never lie. Telling a lie and getting caught assures you that you will never gain their trust and that you will lose all your credibility, so why risk it? You don't have to reveal your whole life story but at the same time, you shouldn't say anything that is not true. There is a way to avoid answering questions you don't want to answer and a simple, "I'd rather not discuss that" and then changing the topic should do.

Take a genuine interest in the other person. When you start conversing make sure you listen to what he or she says and not only keep talking about yourself, like many people do.

Acknowledge and respect their opinion. There are times that we will not agree on certain topics and the best thing to do when this happens is to just accept that you don't agree with everything. It's normal.

Everyone has a conversational style, so match their conversational style. Using your words and body, it will help if you can make the other feel at ease by talking the way they do. Mirroring is one way to show how interested you are in them.

When you use the same conversational style as the other person, it makes them feel comfortable and more open. Almost everyone trusts who they are so when you are more like them, they are more likely to trust you.

Gaining a person's trust comes with responsibility. This means that once trust is gained, you should avoid breaking that trust. Treat trust with respect and honor and sooner than later you'll see the fruits of your labor in a progressive relationship.




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